Turning 40 series – where I start to accept I am middle aged

Yes! This is a breakthrough! I’ve actually started referring to myself as being middle aged without breaking into tears/a cold sweat/shivers.

I mean technically I am 39. I may live beyond 78 but I may not. So technically I am middle aged . It’s a fact. So why has it been so so hard for me to accept and come to terms with? It’s just a term, a couple of words. Why did I get myself all in a spin about it?

Well before I ponder that, I’m not alone. The Office for National Statistics in the UK reports that 40- to 59-year-olds are the most anxious age group. At 39 I’m headlong hurtling into statisticsville. So to identify whether I am likely to be the owner of a full on midlife crisis, I have found an article on the 40 signs of a midlife crisis ( must be true then) to identify if I am full on mid life crisis ready.

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A guide to nourishing and depleting activities

I don’t know if like me you come to a halt sometimes and ask yourself why you feel quite so crap? You’re tired, your skin is all puffy and pink, you are slothing around eating things that aren’t good for you and then you wonder why you feel awful? You think back to the last time you relaxed, or didn’t rush round doing things for other people. You can’t actually remember when you did something that relaxed you, or truly nourished you. Do nourishing and depleting activities feature on your radar?

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Definitions of mindfulness by the experts

Following on from the last blog about what is mindfulness, it feels natural to me to look deeper into definitions of mindfulness and mindful living.

So for this post I am going to turn to the masters, the experts, the people who say it better than me. They will define mindfulness for us through video and word. I want this post to be a curated collection really of those different views of what mindfulness is. A reader commented on my last post that mindfulness is different for all of us, and this collection of definitions definitely shows us it is. Hopefully if you’re new to mindfulness you’ll find one that resonates for you, drop me a line in the comments about anything that speaks to you.

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Procrastination – why do we do it and how do we stop it?

Hands up who washes up, on cleans the house and vacuums the car when they have something important to do? (My hand shoots up high at this point). Hands up who finds they’ve spent three hours on social media when they had a blog post to write, a piece of work to do or have promised themselves they’ll get round to something you really should have done  ages ago? (Hand shoots up a bit higher). So hey we all procrastinate at some time, but according to the leading experts on procrastination 20% of us are chronic procrastinators. This would be those of us who put bills in a drawer, who never get the important stuff done, and who never ever buy a gift on time. But why do we procrastinate?

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Five ways to love your job (Even when you don’t like it)

Let’s be honest – how many of us can say we love our job? The lucky few who follow their passion or their vocation every day and get paid for it are the people we often watch and admire and wish we could be like.

Even if like me, you’re working on getting there (I’m trying to build The Mindful Hub into something that I can create to bring so much good mindful stuff to you all – but it’s a slow process whilst still working full time), it can feel like an uphill struggle and meanwhile you need to pay the bills. But what if even if you’re not in your dream job, you could still learn to love the job you’re in? Well using a little bit of mindful magic you can. Here’s how…

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Be Brave

Do you ever have one of those random conversations which touch you down to the core? Something that starts out as a chat with a colleague, and ends up making you have a deep realisation about yourself?

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Turning 40 Series Part 2: No longer young. Not yet old

So one of the problems I have with turning 40 is that it feels a bit like you’re in no man’s land. The land of limbo… no longer do I want to stay up and drink until the sun rises or pole dance around a concrete pillar in a bar (OK if I’ve had three wines I still might). I add a caveat here that I do not speak for everyone when I speak about turning 40. I know some fabulous rock star women who are still partying hard well into their 40s ,  50s and 60s…. I am more than willing to party hard as long as I can have some chips and be in bed by 12.  Neither though do I want to wear beige or go on Saga holidays (although we did go to Madeira last year, and I’m worried that might still count…) Heading towards being ‘in your 40s’ feels a bit like being in between lives. You’re no longer an angst ridden 20 something desperate to meet ‘the one’. You’re starting to get a bit of heartburn but you don’t have to down the angina pills on a Saturday night for fun. So just what is being in your 40s all about? Somewhere in between the two? I’ve asked lots of people this question as I look to enter this exclusive club. What is good about being 40? Here’s some of what they said…

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The Turning 40 series; Part 1, having a midlife moment

This year, 40 years ago the world changed on it’s axis when I was launched into it, and now , 40 years later, the months are creeping by until my 40th birthday.  I expected to feel fine about this, I was delighted with my 30th, and my 30s have been wonderful years for me, where I’ve romped in the Capital, returned to live nearer my family, met the love of my life and settled in the country. It’s also the decade that I found and embraced mindfulness and minimalism, and started living a lifestyle with less, meditating and living for now. So it’s fair to say out of the three decades of my life, it definitely takes first prize.

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