Let’s be honest – how many of us can say we love our job? The lucky few who follow their passion or their vocation every day and get paid for it are the people we often watch and admire and wish we could be like.
Even if like me, you’re working on getting there (I’m trying to build The Mindful Hub into something that I can create to bring so much good mindful stuff to you all – but it’s a slow process whilst still working full time), it can feel like an uphill struggle and meanwhile you need to pay the bills. But what if even if you’re not in your dream job, you could still learn to love the job you’re in? Well using a little bit of mindful magic you can. Here’s how…
Do you ever have one of those random conversations which touch you down to the core? Something that starts out as a chat with a colleague, and ends up making you have a deep realisation about yourself?
So one of the problems I have with turning 40 is that it feels a bit like you’re in no man’s land. The land of limbo… no longer do I want to stay up and drink until the sun rises or pole dance around a concrete pillar in a bar (OK if I’ve had three wines I still might). I add a caveat here that I do not speak for everyone when I speak about turning 40. I know some fabulous rock star women who are still partying hard well into their 40s , 50s and 60s…. I am more than willing to party hard as long as I can have some chips and be in bed by 12. Neither though do I want to wear beige or go on Saga holidays (although we did go to Madeira last year, and I’m worried that might still count…) Heading towards being ‘in your 40s’ feels a bit like being in between lives. You’re no longer an angst ridden 20 something desperate to meet ‘the one’. You’re starting to get a bit of heartburn but you don’t have to down the angina pills on a Saturday night for fun. So just what is being in your 40s all about? Somewhere in between the two? I’ve asked lots of people this question as I look to enter this exclusive club. What is good about being 40? Here’s some of what they said…
I received a wonderful gift last year; a gratitude journal. I had experimented with different gratitude practices before (more about keeping a gratitude jar below) , but had never kept a journal specifically for gratitude. It’s revolutionalised my mindful practice and made me a lot more of a positive person, but why?
This year, 40 years ago the world changed on it’s axis when I was launched into it, and now , 40 years later, the months are creeping by until my 40th birthday. I expected to feel fine about this, I was delighted with my 30th, and my 30s have been wonderful years for me, where I’ve romped in the Capital, returned to live nearer my family, met the love of my life and settled in the country. It’s also the decade that I found and embraced mindfulness and minimalism, and started living a lifestyle with less, meditating and living for now. So it’s fair to say out of the three decades of my life, it definitely takes first prize.
A guest post from Bay Mehl, founder of The Mini Meditating Dragon. A blog that hopes to help others find happiness and calm through yoga, minimalism, and meditation. Find her at https://theminimeditatingdragon.wordpress.com/.
Pets are pretty amazing. They don’t tell on you if all you do on a Friday night is eat takeaway in your pants. If you want to wear your pyjama pants three days running they’ll still love you. They don’t post pictures to social media of you snoring. Their little personalities are all different and they are loving, and depend on you (OK not so much cats). I should know. We have six. Yes you heard right, six of the little darlings. Two dogs and four cats. Our hybrid family came together from a mix of locations; two single households, some joint ownership and two failed foster cats. (Failed in the sense that I couldn’t give them back.)
You’d be forgiven, particularly if you’re not a pet owner or animal lover for thinking we’re pretty bonkers for having so many pets. However we love our busy household full of furry friends. And since I’ve been practising mindfulness, I realised something about pets, which is pretty good for me. They make you more mindful.
For those not in the know, it was International Women’s Day yesterday. A day to celebrate women everywhere. In York, UK, where I live we were celebrating with a screening of Embrace – the Documentary. For those of you who have no idea what I am talking about you can find out more here.
Basically Embrace is a body image movement founded by Taryn Brumfitt, an Australian who, fed up with hating her body and herself set about learning to love it and make peace with it. She posted a now infamous before and after photo of herself on Facebook – the before being her in the ‘perfect’ shape when she was a bodybuilder, and the after as her now, with a bit of a belly and some cellulite in irony to the traditional before and after pictures of women who go from fat to thin.
It went viral and since then Taryn has been on a worldwide journey to spread her message. I heard about her just a few months ago and was so interested because like many I am on a lifelong journey to make peace with my body.